Why do we need lasting change?
Lasting change is not always simple to achieve. Most of us try to avoid it and at times even fight it. It is still the only way we can grow. It also fulfills our needs in life. My father used to say military service is something he would not do again but was glad he went through it. Difficult change is something we do not always welcome. Yet it is something we often cherish once the results are visible in our lives.
Great change management tools are humbleness and love. I would ask you to hold off on rolling your eyes until the end of the article. These two words have been butchered and pushed into the far corners of avoidance. It’s however, these exact words we need to achieve lasting change.
Humbleness is not weakness
Humbleness does not mean we are scared or pushed around. A humble approach goes hand in hand with certainty in life. To be humble means to know who you are. A great quote found in First, Fast, Fearless: How to Lead Like a Navy SEAL has a great quote:
The higher you go, the less you know, the more you owe.
False humbleness is also not the target. It is this kind of “humbleness” which is actually pride. People see through this fairly quickly and reject it. Perhaps more of this thought at a later time. It is also difficult to have false humbleness and lasting change at he same time.
Love is far more than just romance.
Our Valentine’s Day only word is love. We have lost what it means. The ancient greeks thought of love in many ways. We currently “love” chocolate and “love” our best half in life. Surely we cannot have the same feeling for both.
This following definition guides me in everyday life and I have to admit it is hard to apply at times.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Being humble puts people in perspective. It allows us to put others first and ourselves last. It sounds like the wrong way to look at things, but no man is an island. We need each other to succeed.
And we have love which forgives, trusts and hopes. People can be tough on each other. We have daily events which give the chance for fear to take root. The secret sauce to lasting change is to love back even when we do not feel like it.
Being humble and loving others opens the doors to a huge amount of ways to grow.